Is Domestic Discipline Abuse?

Anyone who has read my book, Traditional Love, knows that I write about Domestic Discipline. My hero is sexy, loving, romantic, alpha and believes in spanking his women. He lives a lifestyle known as Domestic Discipline.
I have received many reviews and many emails about my book. I LOVE hearing from people who have read it. I even enjoy the bad reviews...it means my book is actually getting read. Although, I have gotten a few comments/reviews that say Domestic Discipline is abuse. To be honest, I expected this reaction when I wrote the book. I knew I was going against the feminist movement in a way, and I would get some negative feedback.

Do I think Domestic Discipline is abuse? No.

Domestic Discipline is something that both parties, in a loving and committed partnership, agree upon. The woman wants it, the man wants it...plain and simple. If a man was spanking a woman out of aggression, anger, and against her will, then we would have another story. But anyone who truly understands the lifestyle, know that the act of spanking is something they feel makes their relationship stronger.
Not everyone may agree with Domestic Discipline. Not everyone would choose to be spanked by the man they love. But just because it "isn't your thing," doesn't mean it falls in the category of abuse.

Is finding true love as simple as finding a strong man who spanks?
That is the first line that describes my book. I don't hide the fact of what my book is about. Therefore, if spanking and domestic discipline is not your cup of tea...you may not enjoy Traditional Love. Although...maybe you will. *wink*

How Dirty Can You Go?

So I am working on a story for an upcoming Anthology called Indulgence. This is a compilation of 11 authors who are all bringing something paranormal, BDSM and hot! I have never written paranormal, so this is quite the challenge for me. I have also never really written BDSM...spanking and ropes...but never true BDSM. So I'm being pushed outside of my comfort zone, but loving the challenge.

So as I begin to write, I keep asking myself if I'm going too far, too dirty, TOO BDSM. What is too dirty? What's pushing it too far? It's erotica, so the envelope has to be pushed...but when do you push too far?

What I do know, is that unless I blush...my book is not hot enough. I have to feel like I wouldn't want "mom" to read it, or I've done something wrong.

Ahhh the joys...How Dirty Can I Go?

The Joys of Being an Erotica Writer

So one of the joys of being an Erotica Author is trying to come up with creative, sexy and seductive ways to describe sex. What's challenging is trying to come up with ways to describe the human body parts. I tend to use "pussy" and "cock". I'm not sure why those two words are so prevalent in my writing...but they just seem to fit my writing style. Now where this becomes difficult, is when a paragraph is overflowing with pussy and cock...seriously. I can't over use, so what words can I use?
Well, there are many:
Dick
Vagina
Penis
Manhood
Cunt
Shaft
and the list could go on and on.

So as I write, I have to figure out the right rhythm, the right feel, and yes...the right word! I don't want to offend, disgust or paint the wrong visual. For example, I'm not going to use the word "Vajayjay" or "Pecker". Those words are just plain wrong. Sometimes I laugh at the absurdity of where my thought process has to go as I write. I ask myself if all Erotica Authors have this challenge. Do they all struggle with the over use of pussy, or having too much cock? Hmmm...the joys of erotica. :)

Still Writing...

Looking up into his eyes, filled her with desire to
suck harder, lick faster and please him even more.
The way his eyes cast down upon her, made her
pussy ache for him. Moisture pooled between the
velvet lips of her pussy...

More to come!