I love a good sex toy. I'm not ashamed to admit it....maybe a tad bashful, but not ashamed. In a way, an erotica is like a sex toy. An item to get your juices flowing.
I also love shopping for these toys. I love the sex boutique. It's empowering to walk in, head held high, and with the purpose to add a little spice to your life. Don't get me wrong, I HATE a sex shop. What's the difference, you might ask? Well, a sex shop is dirty (literally), dark, cluttered, tacky and has people lurking in the depths of the shadows. A sex shop is a place you go and feel like you stepped into a XXX movie. You pray that no one recognizes your car in the parking lot. A sex boutique, on the other hand, is girly, also sells candles and lingerie, and is inviting and friendly. It sells the latest and greatest and always has helpful staff.
Sex Boutique = romantic, Sex Shop = filthy secret.
To me, an erotic romance is like a sex boutique. Sure, it's kinky and naughty, but the goal is to have the element of romance. We want the reader to feel comfortable, even if the content or genre they're reading is pushing their limits a bit. We want the reader to not feel like they need to cleanse themselves after reading (although I have read books leaving me with that sensation). A good erotic romance should leave the reader wanting more. Wanting to buy the next erotica with their head held high. A good erotica should leave the reader enjoying the experience of what good, sensual, seductive storytelling can do.
If you have never been to a sex boutique, you need to go. Force yourself to have the courage. Challenge yourself to boldly go where all women should. AND if you haven't picked up an erotic romance...you are truly missing out. Trust me...your imagination will thank you, your significant other will thank you, your sex life will thank you, and all the erotic authors trying to make a living, will thank you! ;)