Spanking Fiction Being Reviewed

This is a great interview. I love seeing what a reviewer who actually enjoys the spanking genre thinks. Check it out. Thanks Cara Bristol, for helping us erotica authors out!

http://carabristol.com/

Anal Discipline How To - A BDSM Point of View

I have received so many comments and emails from my request for "anal discipline advice," that I'm going to have to put together a series of blog posts to get in everyone's opinion.

I've decided to start with this email from the Author, Trent Evans. The following advice is much more "bdsm" than I write...but I love seeing this point of view as well.

I will have more anal discipline advice coming soon as I compile all the expert advice.

Hi Alta,

Thank you so much for posting my thoughts on this subject. I am sharing them mainly as a writer, in the hopes that it will help other writers explore different ways of incorporating this type of discipline into their erotic fiction. I hope this is helpful - or at least thought provoking.

(Disclaimer - I do not claim to have done all of following suggestions myself IRL; in those cases where I have not, this would just be my thoughts/opinions as a writer. Also, I use Dom/sub titles here simply for ease of identification, even though many DD relationships may not self-identify with those labels)

What is anal discipline?

To me it's simply the use of the anus and/or rectum for either training or punishment (or both). I suppose definitions will vary from person to person though :)

How does it pertain to domestic discipline?

Since spanking and corporal punishment are such integral parts of DD (and D/s in a broader context), it makes perfect sense to not just punish the buttocks, but also the anus as well. It is such a private area, that its use by a Dom/HoH enforces the concept of his control of her - all of her. Additionally, since anal sex (or anal play) is frequently part of DD and D/s storylines, it would make sense that it is used to control and/or punish her.

How can a couple incorporate it into their domestic discipline dynamic?

I think you do this well in Traditional Terms (though I am only half way through it). If I repeat something already written in Traditional Terms, you'll have to excuse my ignorance.

Unlike spanking, punishment of the anus could in some cases (assuming she can keep quiet) be done quietly/discreetly. It might be used in place of a spanking (as in your white-hot scene in Traditional Terms), or as an adjunct to a spanking. Perhaps it is reserved for truly grievous offenses, where a more severe punishment is called for?

What are some actual practices that can be done?

- Progressive stretching of the anus with graduated sizes of plugs/dildos;

- the use of electricity to stimulate and/or hurt the anus (anything from TENS units to violet wands to cattleprods - ouch);

- the use of cold to numb and cause aching (must be careful with ice - especially in the rectum);

- use of topical agents creams/oils/sauces to irritate the tissue (again shouldn't be used internally);

- "figging" with ginger root; safe and can be tailored to produce pain from very mild up to scorching, with no ill after effects (other than her memories!);

- spanking of the anus directly using thin straps of rubber or leather (be careful!); can also spank the anus with fingers.

- The "usual suspects": penetration with several fingers or the man's cock;

- Of course you also have enemas and suppositories which could probably have their own topic;

- Use of a saddle strap (tight harness that draws a thin strap up the central seam of the woman's sex and through the crevice of her buttocks);

- Rope bondage; rough and/or knotted rope affixed snugly against the anus/perineum as part of strict bondage.

 Why would a couple actually do anal discipline?

I would think there would be a two-track motivation: the sub's and the Dom's.

Dom: He gets to embarrass (or even humiliate a little if that works for them) her by exposing her bottomhole to his scrutiny, his tongue, his fingers, plugs and finally his cock. I can't think of a Dom who wouldn't absolutely LOVE that. He gets to inflict pain (both physical and emotional) on her as a way to punish her or to train her in her behavior. This is after all what a spanking ultimately does; it's simply hurting a different body part. Like spanking, the exposure and embarrassment the sub feels is just as important as the actual infliction of the punishment, Finally, he is emphasizing the fact that she has chosen to submit herself to him - including her bottomhole. This is the most private place for most people, and would be the ultimate expression of vulnerability/submission.

Sub: In many ways a mirror image of the Dom's motivations. She chooses to submit all to him - even the use and control of her body's most secret areas/functions. She may be turned on by this, or horrified (or likely both). Depending on her reactions, her Dom can treat her accordingly. Perhaps she feels a strange compulsion to be "taken over" by him fully. What more visceral way than to use her bottomhole to control/train/punish her? Emotionally, this is a physical manifestation of having to open to him, hide nothing from him. With anal punishment that sentiment is a whole lot more than a psychological construct; it's got real world implications for her!

Is anal discipline just a fantasy to read about?

I think if both parties are into it, it's of course a wonderful part of real-life sex. If one of them is not into it, then it would probably need to stay a fantasy for them both. However, perhaps if it is the sub who is reluctant, the Dom may be able to eventually push her limits somewhat, and expose her to something new. If it's the Dom with the reluctance this may be a tougher problem. Perhaps another Dom could "fill him in" on the benefits and joys of anal discipline? Could have interesting narrative/plot possibilities.

Thanks again Alta for letting me chime in on this subject!

Best,
Trent Evans

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A Lady and a Maid -

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Anal Discipline How To...Coming Soon

I'm blushing, I'm humble, I'm giggling slightly, and I'm going to listen to my fans. I get emails all the time asking questions about anal discipline. As most of the people who read this blog know, there is a scene in Traditional Terms that really spotlights this type of submissive exercise. There are also small samples of it in Traditional Love.

Because of my writing (I assume), I am somehow being considered, by many, as an 'expert'. Plus, the key words that are being searched for that are leading to my blog are: anal discipline, anal discipline alta hensley, anal discipline in domestic discipline, how to do anal discipline and so on... Obviously a lot of people are in search of more information on this topic. There are so many google searches, that it tells me people want to know more. People are curious, fascinated, and desire info.

I have to admit, that I do know a lot...not an expert...but I do know quite a bit. I take my research very serious when I write a book. BUT before I put out some more "how to" info. I am going to ask my fellow DD authors, or anyone else who knows a little bit about it, to email me at hensleyalta@yahoo.com to give me their two sense. Or leave a comment.

The questions I ask to all is : What is anal discipline? How does it pertain to domestic discipline? How can a couple incorporate it into their domestic discipline dynamic? What are some actual practices that can be done? Why would a couple actually do anal discipline? Is anal discipline just a fantasy to read about?

So my plan is to do a blog post with the how to's of Anal Discipline. But before I do, I am going to call on the experts. The writers, the bloggers, the DD authors, or even the couples who already utilize this submissive act in their lives. I will also go do a little more research.

 Coming Soon...

Erotica Is Like A Sex Boutique

I love a good sex toy. I'm not ashamed to admit it....maybe a tad bashful, but not ashamed. In a way, an erotica is like a sex toy. An item to get your juices flowing.

I also love shopping for these toys. I love the sex boutique. It's empowering to walk in, head held high, and with the purpose to add a little spice to your life. Don't get me wrong, I HATE a sex shop. What's the difference, you might ask? Well, a sex shop is dirty (literally), dark, cluttered, tacky and has people lurking in the depths of the shadows. A sex shop is a place you go and feel like you stepped into a XXX movie. You pray that no one recognizes your car in the parking lot. A sex boutique, on the other hand, is girly, also sells candles and lingerie, and is inviting and friendly. It sells the latest and greatest and always has helpful staff.
Sex Boutique = romantic, Sex Shop = filthy secret.

To me, an erotic romance is like a sex boutique. Sure, it's kinky and naughty, but the goal is to have the element of romance. We want the reader to feel comfortable, even if the content or genre they're reading is pushing their limits a bit. We want the reader to not feel like they need to cleanse themselves after reading (although I have read books leaving me with that sensation). A good erotic romance should leave the reader wanting more. Wanting to buy the next erotica with their head held high. A good erotica should leave the reader enjoying the experience of what good, sensual, seductive storytelling can do.

If you have never been to a sex boutique, you need to go. Force yourself to have the courage. Challenge yourself to boldly go where all women should. AND if you haven't picked up an erotic romance...you are truly missing out. Trust me...your imagination will thank you, your significant other will thank you, your sex life will thank you, and all the erotic authors trying to make a living, will thank you! ;)

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Submissive? Controlled? Mastered?

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Caine rubbed my head, lightly lifting my hair off of my back.  He slowly moved his finger down my back until it rested softly on my anus.  He applied a little pressure but didn’t press in.  My breath caught and I let out a soft sigh.

  “Yes, I would.  I sometimes like to use my finger in a very intimate way to get your mind ready to submit and for me to establish a dominant role.  I usually do this before and after a spanking.   But I also do it as a way to remind you of who is boss… so to say.”  He pressed his finger a little more.  “How does this make you feel?  Does it make you feel submissive?”

I couldn’t answer.  I didn’t know how I felt.  All I could do was let out a small gasp every time his finger pushed a little further.

“Neely, answer me.  How does my finger pressing here, make you feel?”  Caine softly demanded.

I shook my head and pressed my face against his chest.  I couldn’t answer.  I didn’t know how to voice the mixture of emotions.  I was embarrassed to have his finger invading such a forbidden area.  Part of me wanted to escape his sensual probing, but another part of me wanted to scream for more.  As his finger inched its way deeper, there was a slight pinch and burn that set my whole body on fire. 

“Answer me,” Caine commanded in a much firmer tone.  He thrust his finger the remainder of the way, punishing my silence.

“Desire!”  I whispered between my gasps.  My pussy was dripping with anticipation.

“Good.  How does it make you feel mentally?”  Caine asked while pressing his finger even deeper.

I shook my head again, hiding my blushing face against his chest.  I didn’t know how to voice the emotion.  Submissive?  Controlled?  Mastered?  Whatever I felt was like nothing I had ever experienced.  The presence of his finger had such a grasp of my internal struggles.  My wall was crumbling with every second his finger possessed me.  I wanted to just release and let go.  Allow the feelings to rush through me.  And yet something in me kept trying to fight them away.

“Neely.  Not answering me when I ask warrants discipline.”  Caine began to pump his finger in and out.  The action was not sensual or seductive like before, but was replaced with firm and direct thrusts.  The pace resembled a spanking, an intimate alternative to being spanked.  I wanted to plead for more, and at the same time, I wanted to beg for him to stop.   

Caine pressed his finger to the hilt and used the force to push me even closer to his body.  He pressed hard against my inner depths.  My gasp turned to a moan.

“I know this might be hard.  Hard to let go and submit.  I want you to relax and allow the sensation,” Caine coaxed.  He kissed me lightly on the head as he slowly removed his finger, only to press it forward, past the tight ring, once more.  “I’ll ask again.  Does this make you feel submissive?”

Without pause I answered, “Yes.”

Anal, Spanking, Romance...Oh My!

I'm currently in the middle of writing Traditional Ties. This is book 3 in my Traditional Love series. As I write, I can't help but think of all the reviews (good and bad), all the comments, all the emails etc. I love my fans and even respect my critics. I want to please...it must be the submissive in me.

So, I write wondering if I should turn up the heat in the sex, or add more spanking or put more anal play. I know that this is the WORST way to write. I should just allow my heart to flow and allow the words to just come. But in the back of my mind I hear the voices. I know...I sound crazy.

I wonder if other authors go through the same issues. I can say one thing...book 3 is WAY harder to write than Traditional Love was. When I was writing Traditional Love, the only thing I worried about is what my mother would think if she read it. Now, as I write, I worry about reviews, fans, book sales, what my editor will say, if my grammar has improved, if I'm living up to expectations, and the list goes on.

I need to sit, type, and create some scorching smut. Will it have spanking, sex, anal, romance and love? Of course! So I guess, at the end of the day, that is all that matters. It will have all of the above, and then some. It is an Alta Hensley erotic romance, after all. :)